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6 Bad Mental Habits that Sabotage your Success

https://www.inc.com/amy-morin/6-bad-mental-habits-that-sabotage-your-success.html

This is an article I came across which is something that I sparked my interest, I read the title and I was instantly intrgued. This is an article written by Amy Morin. And she talks about the 6 Bad habits that sabotage you and your chance at gaining success in this world. 

1 thing I knew before reading this was how bad people's mental health are these days especially because of the pandemic and this is something that everyone should have a read of.

She basically goes to explain the 6 Bad Mental Habits that are bad for you and she gives full detail and examples of each point.

The few things I had learned from reading this article was that, it is possible to achieve your goals and dreams. Every day is a battle and a struggle so you got to be willing to take the hits. Because thats how life is, everyone has a problem of some kind and we are not the only ones. People portray on social media the perfect life and showcasing their highlight reels of what they have. But people don't know the true story behind those photos and videos on social media. 

Thats why when they say that social media is not real, it really isnt. 

One thing I was curious to explore is implementing these tips especially for next in 3rd year, because 3rd year is going to be a much tougher year and with alot more work and opportunites so I have to learn how to control my mind before I can go ahead and have a better chance at success.

These are the 6 Bad habits that are sabotaging a person's chance at success : 

1. Making excuses.

Blaming other people or external circumstances for your lack of achievement harms your performance. Saying things like "My boss is holding me down," or "All this paperwork makes it impossible to do my job" will only keep you stuck.

Stop making excuses: Focus on all the things you can do rather than on what you can't. When you pay attention to the positive, you'll put  more effort into your performance. 

2. Catastrophizing the future.

Negative predictions easily turn into self-fulfilling prophecies. If you step up on a stage to deliver an important speech thinking, "I'm going to mess everything up," you'll be distracted--and that distraction may cause you to forget the words.

Stop catastrophizing: Unless you're creating productive plans to deal with potential worst-case scenarios, don't explore "What if?" questions. Predicting disastrous outcomes will cause a spike in anxiety that could cause you to choke.   

3. Seeking audience approval.

Your attempts to gain approval from others could backfire. Trying to decipher how an interviewer is perceiving your answers, for example, could cause you stumble over your words. Or even worse--thinking about the other person's response could cause you to tune out the conversation altogether.

Stop trying to gain approval: While it may be important to sometimes gauge your audience's reaction--like in the middle of a sales pitch--every second you spend seeking reassurance is one second you aren't focused on the task at hand. Keep the focus on doing your best and recognize that you can't control how other people respond.

4. Believing self-doubt.

Insecurity can easily kill your dreams. If you walk into a job interview thinking, "I'll never get hired," your self-doubt will shine through and you'll be less likely to land the job. Rejection will only fuel your self-doubt and create a negative cycle that's hard to break.

Stop doubting yourself: Create a list of your skills, talents, and achievements. Read the list regularly and when you're plagued by self-doubt, remind yourself of all the reasons you're "good enough." 

5. Putting yourself down.

It's impossible to perform well when you're telling yourself, "You're stupid" or "You can't ever do anything right." Negative self-talk will discourage you from putting in your best effort and it will drag you down fast.

Stop the put-downs: Talk to yourself like a trusted friend. If you wouldn't use such harsh words with someone else, don't allow your inner critic to say them to you.

6. Second-guessing yourself.

While reflecting on past choices can be healthy, second-guessing each choice you make will impair your performance. Questioning whether you said the right thing, or second-guessing your choice in attire for the cocktail party, wastes a lot brain power.

Stop second-guessing yourself: Practice mindfulness so you can learn how to be fully present in the here-and-now.